It’s OK – Celebrating Choice!

Sometimes I feel bombarded with unattainable role models or the social commentary on what women should be doing. We hear about the importance of the early years and spending time with our children or on the flip side if you haven’t run a multi-million dollar start up, found a cure and sat on board, you have somehow failed.

Some days I feel like celebrating the mere fact that I signed the 10 forms and got the kids out the door in clean uniforms (al bet it un-ironed!)

Expectations on who we should be and how we define success can be challenging. 

In most cases women still hold the role of the primary care giver, which can come with a lot of guilt, anxiety and stress with the choices we make. Trying to live up to our own and societies expectations of a wife, mother, employee, business owner or daughter.

I think International Women’s day provides a great chance to reflect and say to ourselves Its OK:

It’s ok to want to raise your children.

Its ok if you don't want to have children.

It’s ok to want to work after having children and have a successful career.

It’s ok to acknowledge that at times raising children can be isolating, frustrating and monotonous.

It’s ok to find personal fulfilment in something other than professional success

It’s ok to work full time or part time or not at all.

It’s ok if you don’t want to work at senior levels.

It’s ok to say I enjoy picking my children up from school.

It’s ok if you change your mind.

It’s ok to be ambitious.

It’s ok to ask for help.

It’s ok to be unsure.

It’s ok to be you.

We don’t need to apologise, justify or feel less than because of the choices we make and we should respect the choices of others without judgement.

Michelle Ayyuce